What I’ve learnt from being six months sober

What I’ve learnt from being six months sober


Well today marks being six months sober for me.

It’s 8am and I’m sat in my garden in my bikini sunbathing thanks to this glorious British weather we are having and sipping black coffee writing this with a clear head after a 9 hour sleep.

With England through to the semi finals of the World Cup yesterday then I suspect that most of the nation isn’t even awake yet, let alone up and enjoying the day like I am. Plus let’s not talk about how rough many people will feel for most of the day if they’ve been out celebrating with alcohol…

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The importance of getting away from it all

The importance of getting away from it all

So this is the first day of my week away in Spain and I’m feeling great (despite overindulging in some delicious Spanish gin last night!)

Coffee, cream (well oil really!) and a commitment

I’ve made a commitment to blog daily whilst I am away so that I can get into the habit of writing more frequently, which actually doesn’t come naturally or easily for me.

So I will get up with my black coffee and sit out in the garden of my friend’s beautiful apartment under the hot Spanish sun to write and reflect on what I’ve been reading, experiencing and thinking.

 MBA madness

At the moment it’s quite stressful with the executive MBA course that I am completing and I have a number of important deadlines over the next couple of weeks to meet. In some ways you could say that taking a holiday right now is the worst possible moment to do so…but actually I’m embracing it and using the days under the sun to do a little bit of Bolst Global business planning but in the most part to focus on the reading and assignment planning that I need to do.

 A learning environment

And being away from home, the office and the working environment is the best way to get on with this as I’m always battling the guilt of not concentrating on one thing over the other (MBA versus business versus other things I commit to) and here I feel like I can allow myself to focus on the MBA work. And actually being a bit of an academic junkie then for me being able to do this on holiday I find enjoyable  (yes, I’m a bit crazy!) and will prevent me from becoming even more stressed when I get back to drizzly England.


That’s why a change of environment and getting away from it all for me and everyone is so important. It refreshes you and you  can focus on the often neglected but fundamental stuff that your daily activities prevent you from thinking about or doing.

So if you are about to go away- how can you best use this downtime to obviously relax but also to possibly make some decisions or think about those things you haven’t had enough headspace to address?

 Making ‘sunny’ decisions!

I really enjoy being in the sun and so I’m using this time away from the routine to multitask on getting up to speed on some neglected MBA work whilst topping up the tan and thinking bigger about the future. Last year on holiday I made the decision to start up my own business and to start blogging on business related topics.

I wonder what decisions I will have made by the end of this one?

And which ones may you make too?

Please let me know!!

Thanks for reading and happy holidays!


Victoria x

Why mental toughness rules in the gym

Why mental toughness rules in the gym

There’s a gym in Leeds called Sudden Movements that is not like the many chain gyms that exist. It doesn’t have loads of machines, a pool or a sauna, bikes or rowers.


This gym has a rig, it has rings, it has weights and it has some classes that require as much of a mental work out as they do a physical one. Very different from convention as we generally know it!

 Fitter than ever

And yet I’ve been going there for three years and I’m at 31 much fitter and in better shape than when I was 21 – both physically and mentally !

I go there not because of body image or because I want to compete in anything. I go there because I want to conquer the exercises in the classes and be as fit as I can pushing every week to be stronger while juggling an MBA, a business and of course spending time with family and friends.


In the 3 years I’ve been going there has been a hardcore of regular attendees who stick the distance. By this I mean they don’t quit:  no matter what.


They aren’t all in physical peak condition, some of them have lifestyles that mean they can’t be but they turn up, they commit and they don’t give up no matter how tough the routines we work on get.

 Scaling that wall

The thing is the routines aren’t that tough if you tell yourself you can and will achieve before each class. If you see an 8ft wall and tell yourself you can scale it you will but a 5ft wall will be too much if you allow yourself only to see the barrier and not your ability to overcome it.


Those who can’t scale the 5ft wall, those are the ones who lack confidence in their ability to complete moves at the gym and it’s such a shame as they eventually allow that lack of confidence to tell themselves they can’t do it and they invariably quit more often than not.


Another thing I have learned over the years: never measure yourself on someone else, measure yourself on yourself and then go be better tomorrow!

So if something you’re asked to try at a gym class is hard, go at it until you fail. It’s ok to fail then pick yourself up and go at it again next time, pushing yourself to be better. Eventually you will be able to do it!


Mind over matter – it’s not a new thing and it’s so very relevant in so many things.


For me stepping into that gym for the first time having not really worked out before (or signed up to a gym before) I felt it would be a challenge…but I also felt I could do it.


My mind was capable of more than my body was and it still is because as my body gets stronger my brain tells me I can do more and so I push on.


Anyone can do this, we are all capable of climbing our mountains! Just look up from the bottom and see yourself at the top.


You don’t have to have perfection and you don’t need to measure up to others.


Let yourself succeed, don’t worry about when it’s hard or when you reach your limit. Reaching this where you place the marker for next time.


So go out there and flex your mental strength! And see what your mind and body can achieve.


Victoria x